There are some things in life that are beyond our control, and even after we do our best to make them better they still stink. At that point it’s best not to spend any more energy on them, but just to laugh it off. You have to keep your good feelings going, and not get so caught up on something that is resistant to change. This quote says that you should try to make it better, and if you’re not successful at that to simply write it off and find humor in it. This is a good way to go about it since you’ll go crazy the other way.
"Every friendship travels at sometime through the black valley of despair. This tests every aspect of your affection. You lose the attraction and the magic. Your sense of each other darkens and your presence is sore. If you can come through this time, it can purify with your love, and falsity and need will fall away. It will bring you onto new ground where affection can grow again." John O'Donohue
They say that some rules are made to be broken, and still others are made to be bent. She’s not saying that you should break the law, but our society has so many rules put in place that if you conform to them all you might have a bland and vanilla time here. Find out which rules are getting in the way of some good clean fun, and test the boundaries. Life isn’t about staying within the lines, it’s about doing what you want without getting in the way of others doing what they want.
“When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.”
“Don't let the expectations and opinions of other people affect your decisions. It's your life, not theirs. Do what matters most to you; do what makes you feel alive and happy. Don't let the expectations and ideas of others limit who you are. If you let others tell you who you are, you are living their reality — not yours. There is more to life than pleasing people. There is much more to life than following others' prescribed path. There is so much more to life than what you experience right now. You need to decide who you are for yourself. Become a whole being. Adventure.”
Only Mother Teresa has the credibility to talk about the small things that lead to great things in our lives. She was the perfect model for doing small things with great love. It’s always nice when the speaker of a quote is also a shining example for what she is saying. What small things will you do today with great love? It is the culmination of these small things done with great love that become something great, and instead of focusing on the bigger picture you have to focus on doing those small things in a loving way.
“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassions, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”